tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post8302551838027932969..comments2023-11-02T07:52:30.321-07:00Comments on Angelia's....Ramblings....: THE SUPPORTED~Angelia Vernon Menchanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-76956204863866378782010-05-16T05:54:29.577-07:002010-05-16T05:54:29.577-07:00Thanks for this post. I came to this conclusion a ...Thanks for this post. I came to this conclusion a while back and started to implement it. It works. I'm not there yet but better. I have learned that instead of getting mad at my husband for not offering to help with our toddler as much as I would like, I can just ask! Magic!!!Folake Taylor, MD.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12130281897420377828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-89630188517136894652010-05-12T10:31:06.872-07:002010-05-12T10:31:06.872-07:00I don't have a problem saying no. Some look at...I don't have a problem saying no. Some look at me as mean. I am more standoffish. I know sometimes I need to be more helpful at times. I just know I don't want to get caught up in it. It is bad enough folks come to me when they need something, I rarely do that to them.Shaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049949734768494039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-73586311749794244572010-05-12T10:29:52.194-07:002010-05-12T10:29:52.194-07:00It is hard to support a supporter. My grandma is o...It is hard to support a supporter. My grandma is one. Will complain that folks don't help or offer help. I offered to buy her lunch, she tried to pay, I said no, then asked what she wanted. Indecisive. SMH. It was like pulling teeth. Love her.Shaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049949734768494039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-14935872571238940482010-05-12T07:26:02.090-07:002010-05-12T07:26:02.090-07:00Shelia,
I know...@sighing@Shelia,<br />I know...@sighing@Angelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-22501055907134299862010-05-12T07:24:51.831-07:002010-05-12T07:24:51.831-07:00Angelia, I've struggled with saying no in the ...Angelia, I've struggled with saying no in the past but realized that some people will drain you dry if you let them. <br /><br />Before I could even get out of the bed this morning, I got a phone call and had to tell someone no. <br /><br />Sometimes I do find myself explaining why I say no to the person, when in fact, I don't owe them an explanation.Shelia Gosshttp://www.sheliagoss.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-66278943028792914512010-05-12T07:18:39.535-07:002010-05-12T07:18:39.535-07:00Hey 'Cilla,
you know how I do...
kisses!
ange...Hey 'Cilla,<br />you know how I do...<br /><br />kisses!<br />angeliaAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-10882179896101563142010-05-12T07:06:06.486-07:002010-05-12T07:06:06.486-07:00I really needed to read this today. Over the past...I really needed to read this today. Over the past year, I have been bombed with other people problems - and I have handled/solved them all. After taking the cruise, I realized how tired I really have been and i have been struggleing just to get back to some type of normal.<br /><br />It is NOT my responsiblity to care and support so many and yet I don't have the same. Its scary aall the time... Can't say that I am getting there but I know I am pointed in the right direction. <br /><br />Thanks for the Food for Thought/Smack in the Face :-)'Cillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01112656613221929622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-41741388726426501362010-05-12T07:03:20.157-07:002010-05-12T07:03:20.157-07:00@Threadingalong...I had to for my own self...
@Ja...@Threadingalong...I had to for my own self...<br /><br />@Jamie,<br />that is what I do darling...as best I can...<br /><br />angeliaAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-80889899658101082502010-05-12T06:57:56.982-07:002010-05-12T06:57:56.982-07:00Angelia, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this ...Angelia, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this matter. Sis, the Lord is really working on me with this. I can give support like running water and I'm ok with that, but when I don't get it return, that's when the issues begin for. As I said the Lord is working on me and constantly reminding me that I can only control me and not others.Jaime L. Lincolnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-41049031173854737772010-05-12T06:51:32.059-07:002010-05-12T06:51:32.059-07:00You are so true about supporters asking for help. ...You are so true about supporters asking for help. How ca we when we are the ones doing the supporting.<br /><br />Good of you to tell her she can't ride with you after you already said yes. In our eagerness be to supportive sometimes we respond to someone's need/request without thinking.<br /><br />Others don't expect us to break and when we do they are shocked, as your boss was.<br /><br />Be BlessedAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13198321309345676848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-50193978790025751332010-05-12T04:12:49.878-07:002010-05-12T04:12:49.878-07:00Good for you Jen,
I can say no to many things, but...Good for you Jen,<br />I can say no to many things, but anything I see as my RESPONSIBILITY...therein lies my struggle...<br /><br />Smooches!<br />angeliaAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-53732019472982527832010-05-12T03:56:38.877-07:002010-05-12T03:56:38.877-07:00Oh Angelia, I'm sure I will be you in my later...Oh Angelia, I'm sure I will be you in my later years. My mother will tell you that I rarely ever ask for help. I may vent about something, but as for requesting help not my style. <br /><br />I'm not quite sure what happened within my mental space so long ago, but I've been like this most of my life. I loathe asking for any type of help. Maybe I will change my mind one day.<br /><br />BTW, I'm not afraid of saying "NO." I do it all the time. For every time I say yes, it's because I can and want to not. Not because I feel obligated or guilty. I guess that also goes with me not asking for help. If I can find a way to do it all, so should others.Jennifer C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12253564132754009574noreply@blogger.com