tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post2984176965986967990..comments2023-11-02T07:52:30.321-07:00Comments on Angelia's....Ramblings....: You Get What You Pay For!Angelia Vernon Menchanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-9065397553420184602008-07-30T15:50:00.000-07:002008-07-30T15:50:00.000-07:00Very true, Angelia. Some lessons need pain to stic...Very true, Angelia. Some lessons need pain to stick. I appreciated the lessons but I hated the experience I had to endure to learn them. When I was told that my mother was getting old I honestly should have listened but I didn't believe it. When she fell suddenly in her apartment and was there for two days before we discovered her, I wished I had simply listened to the advice I was given. Some lessons stay with us. I can never look back with appreciation on some of those experiences. I would have much rather have learned the lesson by simply accepting an elder telling me...than by dealing with the struggle and still living in guilt over that 2 month coma. <BR/><BR/>I can't really say I appreciate the lesson...or that I've gotten over the lesson. As I said, some of the reverb/pain/ramifications of these lessons go on for years...and some of us never get over those hard lessons. A great post, though. As usual. -CCarole McDonnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15443401088634718848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-51730363700911555492008-07-30T06:50:00.000-07:002008-07-30T06:50:00.000-07:00Jen,that is exactly right and if we didn't feel to...Jen,<BR/>that is exactly right and if we didn't feel to learn we would miss out, I feel that to feel true pleasure and joy, once has to have felt some pain....<BR/><BR/>Smooches!<BR/>angeliaAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-38182635503744395912008-07-30T06:47:00.000-07:002008-07-30T06:47:00.000-07:00Mama Deep,Carole said it right for us Jamaicans "w...Mama Deep,<BR/>Carole said it right for us Jamaicans "when you don't hear, you will feel."<BR/><BR/>My parents always told me that when growing up, and now I tell my children the same thing. It basically means exactly what you said the best received lessons are the ones that are costly, no matter what the price is, those are the ones that sink in.Jennifer C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12253564132754009574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-15321955333470415092008-07-30T06:05:00.000-07:002008-07-30T06:05:00.000-07:00I feel you sister Carole, however, for me I learn ...I feel you sister Carole, however, for me I learn the best when I have to feel it a bit...I have been quite fortunate in so many arenas, so what has best resonated with me has been what I had to go through to get over, case in point, the work thing, I walked around for months acting out and put upon...knowing full well that having that job allowed me to do the many wonderful things I get to do, had my butt on my shoulder as my family would say, only because I only wanted to do what I wanted to do, I had to buy that one, because when I opened my eyes, I was preparing for a costly trip and I knew that job had provided me and sustained me. I had to then give thanks for taking myself through all of that, but I was so grateful, because there were times in there if it had been easier I would have tossed it up...so glad I didn't.<BR/><BR/>Smooches!<BR/>angeliaAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-71735167374813186732008-07-30T05:57:00.000-07:002008-07-30T05:57:00.000-07:00Uhm...gotta think about this. I think if you mean ...Uhm...gotta think about this. I think if you mean "best" in the sense of being a lesson that really takes and one that really changes us.... uhm....<BR/><BR/>I think I'd say the best kind of lesson is one where I never suffered to learn it. My human flesh hates suffering. As we Jamaicans say, "If you don't hear you'll feel." And as a great Archbishop once said, "Fools learn by experience, wise men learn by authority." I so wish I had learned most of my lessons from simply believing mentors and good older people who knew life a lot better than I did. That would have been best. <BR/><BR/>Ah, Sis, the most expensive lessons -- the one that really take a lot out of my soul and cost my spirit and my health a whole lotta pain-- well, they are good lessons definitely. And they're good in that they definitely leave one feeling, "Well, I'll never do that again." But in my life, some of those lessons take soo much time to recover from. And am still recovering. I can't really call them the best. But they definitely DO take. And I'm not likely to forget those lessons anytime soon. -CCarole McDonnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15443401088634718848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-41674894904197260822008-07-30T05:25:00.000-07:002008-07-30T05:25:00.000-07:00Thanks Lady Gwyneth!Blessings!angeliaThanks Lady Gwyneth!<BR/><BR/>Blessings!<BR/>angeliaAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-81682963524358517182008-07-30T05:18:00.000-07:002008-07-30T05:18:00.000-07:00The hardest lessons learned are the ones we get th...The hardest lessons learned are the ones we get the most from. Still, it's good to be in the light after the storm... Great post as usual, sis!<BR/><BR/>GwynethGwyneth Boltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01241149490843015170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-47757624382881812012008-07-30T03:37:00.000-07:002008-07-30T03:37:00.000-07:00Thanks G-Nice,Love you much!mama deepThanks G-Nice,<BR/><BR/>Love you much!<BR/><BR/>mama deepAngelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6261713742558099913.post-64789894226573970292008-07-30T03:20:00.000-07:002008-07-30T03:20:00.000-07:00So true. I often remind myself that struggling is...So true. I often remind myself that struggling is the easy part. Appreciating the struggle when it's over is the hard.<BR/><BR/>Babee...that's so cute! My hubby and kids call me Boo...lol<BR/><BR/>Have a great day and truly enjoy it.<BR/><BR/>G-NiceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com