Does anyone care about how things impact a boy?
Anyone who knows me or has spoken to me or read anything I write know I am an advocate for the girls...if ever there is a case where a young woman is being wronged and you need someone to fight the good fight,,,call me...I am so there...
I am also a mother of sons, two smart, funny, God-loving, law-abiding, ain't got no children cause I'm not married sons, love my mama and daddy and don't care who knows sons, get me some more education cause I got a brain boys...
And what I know for sure is that in many scenarios, no one seems to care how things impact them or there is an assumption that no one cares about them or their feelings, well, I am going out on a limb, people do...
I will paint a couple of scenarios...that I am pondering...
Why in an interracial pairing if the boy is Black or Hispanic and the girl is White,
Is the assumption automatically, what will HER parents think?
Do the parents of Black or Hispanic boys not get a thought, are they not allowed to be the ones who don't think it's always a good thing, or are they supposed to be so glad their sons are 'mixing' it up and that a mix will only 'improve' something...surely not?
Or what about the case when two youngsters are mutually fooling around and a girl becomes pregnant...
Does only the girl's family get to grieve about lost opportunities...
Or could just possibly the boy's family feel the same way...
Maybe they had dreams for their child that transcended early parenthood as well...
Now I truly must touch on the Black American Princess thang...
When parents are running around thinking, saying that a young man isn't good enough for their princess...does at some point it ever occur to them or to anyone that the King and Queen of a Black Prince might be going through something also?
I ask this based on a conversation my son and I had...
Someone said something to him, that called into question what they thought his worth was, without ever knowing a thing about him beyond his hip, afro-centric appearance...
Looking askance he was trying to figure out what they were talking about....
Then it dawned on him they meant he should fit some stereotype...he wondered based on what...
The fact that he speaks several languages...has owned a business since puberty...
Has always had a high GPA or could it be (light bulb moment)
That the assumption is, every Black boy is immediately assumed to be something less...
Than the best, which I am left to assume transcends to the scenarios above?
Damn! What about the boy?
angelia
