Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Honesty

Honesty…
The word that covers a multitude of sins…
We all say we want it…
But do we really?
If the truth will set us free…
We had better be free to hear it…
I honestly (he he) believe that what kills so many relationships…
Is the lack of honesty…

How does a man answer this question?
“Honey am I fat?”
Or a woman answer this one?
“Was it as good for you as it was for me?”
We would all say, with honesty…and truth...
But would we really be honest…or just fake the funk…
Would he say…
“No, baby I love you…just the way you are.” While thinking,
“I sure do love you, God knows I do, but you were more appealing to me when you weighed less…”
Would she say…
“Ohhh yeah, it was even better for me.” While thinking,
“Damn, I was almost there, if only I had a few more minutes…”
Based on what I have seen and been told, most of us would take the politically correct route…
Saying what we think our partners want to hear…
While covering up how we really feel…
Unfortunately what this does is cause internal resentment…
That manifests itself in failed communications…broken relationships...faking the funk...
Many people end up in divorce court…
Unsure why…
Many times, it’s because we have not articulated our feelings, honestly…
We are so exhausted from pretending we are pleased with what…
Displeases us…
The trick is learning how to ‘speak truth’…
With love, compassion and integrity…
Getting what we need from the people we love…
And who love us…
Without leaving them devastated…
It’s not easy…it takes work…lots of work…damn it's hard...
But it’s certainly worth it…
To get what we need…to provide what’s needed…
Honestly…

acVernon Menchan...angelia

6 comments:

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Telling people what they need to hear in a loving and caring way is certainly an artform... I get it right some of the time... Or at least I try... :-) Great post, Angelia!

Gwyneth

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Sis -
it is all in the trying...enjoy your conference...

angelia

Dee Savoy said...

Hey Angelia,

As always, I love your posts. Keep speaking on it, sis.

All the best,
Dee

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Thanks Dee...
I love your posts...mutual admiration is a beauty...

Blessings...
angelia

Lyrically speaking said...

This is a wonderful post, i'm sure we all can relate to it...being honest does set you free but we also must not be afraid to speak our mind

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Thanks Lyrically...
Appreciate your stopping by...

Love and Blessings...
angelia