Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Friday, September 5, 2008

Expect Nothing...

One of the rules of the road,
Be it in love relationships or friendships,
Is to expect nothing from someone, that you aren't willing to do...
I try really hard not to have expectations of anyone but myself,
Even of my children,
I raised them, got them educated and it is now their responsibility to live up to,
Their own expectations,
Because what would I be as a mother, a person,
If the only time I was pleased with my kids was when they were doing what I wanted them to do,
Even if it went against what they were about...
Or as a wife or as a friend,
People always ask how I have stayed married so long,
After I tell them it was with much love, prayer and compromise,
I also tell them that I knew the man I was getting and he knew me,
And our mission has not been to remake the other,
God made us and to cohabit, we had better know that what we get,
Is what we get and to be glad in it...
The same is true where my friends are concerned,
In a friend I want someone to talk to, laugh with, cry with,
And when needed to give it to me 'Straight no Chaser",
And I want to be the same in kind,
But I have no expectations,
Of who else they should be friends with,
Or what their politics are,
Or who they love,
Matters not a twit,
Because our thing is our thing,
And their other things are their business,
What's cool though, is when nothing is expected,
But much is gained, reciprocally...

Love and Peace,
Angelia

Schae's Story: A Woman's Transformation
12/01/2008
www.angeliavmenchan.com

7 comments:

Lena said...

I like that philosophy! No, I love it. Words to live by... I always say, with no expectations, you'll never be disappointed.

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Amen,
Sister Lena!

Blessings!
angelia

Anonymous said...

'And our mission has not been to remake the other'

Amen!

Jennifer C. said...

I agree with Lena.

Expect nothing and you will receive more than ever, even if it is something small. All because you weren't expecting it.

Dera Williams said...

I am learning this more and more everyday. I am responsible to live up to my own expectations and cannot expect anyone else to do live up to mine. Powerful!

Carole McDonnell said...

So true, so true. Doesn't mean I don't nag my hubby though. It's only human. And although I don't care about my son's politics, I definitely try to teach the kid quid pro quo. No use expecting one's son to take care of one in one's old age -- a visit now or then-- if one hasn't taught him that certain things are expected of him. Great post. -C

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Thanks Yas, Jen, Dera,
Sister Carole it's great to hear from you...

Blessings!
angelia