“Why you gotta be so different?”
If I had a dollar for every time I heard that, I would be in Tahiti right now…
This time a young lady wanted to know…
“What do you mean, sweetie?”
“I don’t really know, but you are. First of all you too cool. Everyone I know gets beserk and goes off. But not you…when we act up, you just look at us all cold and stuff and we straighten right up. Do you ever cuss anyone out?”
I smiled inside.
“Very occasionally, but not often. It is a waste of time.”
“It is, when you are in a conversation with someone and it goes wrong, it is real easy to cuss someone out. But in my opinion, when you do that, you are throwing away your power.”
“Your power to have control of your own life. When you allow people to make you so mad you have to cuss them out, then they are in charge of you. I don’t allow people to be in charge of me.”
“Did you ever?” I had to think about this and smile again, my mama always told me I knew my own mind.
“Of course, I was a child once. But mostly from about age thirteen on, my mom trusted me and so long as I followed the rules I was allowed to control my own life.”
“What were the rules?”
“Good grades, respect for myself, chores….stuff like that.”
“So at thirteen what were you allowed to do.”
“Go to movies, go hang out with friends, sit outside staring into space…whatever I wanted to do.”
“What about boys?”
“What about them?”
“Were you allowed to date?”
“Of course not. I was thirteen. But I negotiated a deal with my mom, she had told me sixteen, but when I got to almost fifteen she allowed me to date. By then she knew she could trust me and she also knew it wouldn’t affect my grades, my respect for myself and stuff like that…”
“I told you Ms. A, you just different.”
“Is different bad?”
“No, it is all good…I think I will try to be different too.” My heart surged.
“Don’t nothing beat a fail but a try.”
“We will talk about that another time.”
Angelia Vernon Menchan
Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published eighteen books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than forty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan
Menchan has also published the work of seven other authors to date and has several publishing projects upcoming in 2013 to include a children's book, Little Wing by biologist, Erin Gawera, Honorable Menchan Poets 2013 by Dictator, Genesis and Creammy Mocha and a breast cancer memoir by Lena Jordan.
She is becoming a sought after speaker for young women audiences because she speaks honestly, straight and open to the issues that plague them such as teen pregnancy, the importance of education and making life impacting choices.
Kim Floyd of Real Mommies Read, a part of the Spartanburg Public Library says:
Angelia's ability to help our teen moms see themselves as she did was a special gift. She instilled within them a desire to make better choices, take control of their bodies and their lives. They realized their pasts didn't have to determine their futures. Angelia let them know their worth.
Mrs. Menchan is available for speaking engagements; book signings and discussions. She resides in Jacksonville, Florida with her husband and graphic designer, Maurice Menchan
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679