What about the boy?

Does anyone care about how things impact a boy?
Anyone who knows me or has spoken to me or read anything I write know I am an advocate for the girls...if ever there is a case where a young woman is being wronged and you need someone to fight the good fight,,,call me...I am so there...
I am also a mother of sons, two smart, funny, God-loving, law-abiding, ain't got no children cause I'm not married sons, love my mama and daddy and don't care who knows sons, get me some more education cause I got a brain boys...
And what I know for sure is that in many scenarios, no one seems to care how things impact them or there is an assumption that no one cares about them or their feelings, well, I am going out on a limb, people do...
I will paint a couple of scenarios...that I am pondering...
Why in an interracial pairing if the boy is Black or Hispanic and the girl is White,
Is the assumption automatically, what will HER parents think?
Do the parents of Black or Hispanic boys not get a thought, are they not allowed to be the ones who don't think it's always a good thing, or are they supposed to be so glad their sons are 'mixing' it up and that a mix will only 'improve' something...surely not?
Or what about the case when two youngsters are mutually fooling around and a girl becomes pregnant...
Does only the girl's family get to grieve about lost opportunities...
Or could just possibly the boy's family feel the same way...
Maybe they had dreams for their child that transcended early parenthood as well...
Now I truly must touch on the Black American Princess thang...
When parents are running around thinking, saying that a young man isn't good enough for their princess...does at some point it ever occur to them or to anyone that the King and Queen of a Black Prince might be going through something also?
I ask this based on a conversation my son and I had...
Someone said something to him, that called into question what they thought his worth was, without ever knowing a thing about him beyond his hip, afro-centric appearance...
Looking askance he was trying to figure out what they were talking about....
Then it dawned on him they meant he should fit some stereotype...he wondered based on what...
The fact that he speaks several languages...has owned a business since puberty...
Has always had a high GPA or could it be (light bulb moment)
That the assumption is, every Black boy is immediately assumed to be something less...
Than the best, which I am left to assume transcends to the scenarios above?
Damn! What about the boy?

angelia

Reader Eccentric...

The past couple of weeks I read a lot of books, non-fiction, fiction, romance, poetry, AA authors, non-AA, newspapers and magazines...
Someone called me an Eccentric Reader...
I am, I read what I want, when I want...
I curiously asked the person, what made me eccentric,
They told me because I didn't choose...
Choose What?
Choose to read only AA, or only mainstream or only literary, romance,,,what?
They said, 'Yeah'
I said, 'No'...
I told them I read as I live,
I have a diverse group of people in my life...
From everywhere and anywhere,
All they have to be is honest, open and willing...
And my heart and arms are open to them,
The same is true for books,
It simply has to grab me, touch me, make me think, smile, cry gasp...FEEL,
And I will read it,
Feel the same about music...
So yea I guess that makes me a Reader Eccentric,
If you need to give me a title...
I refuse to give myself one or anyone else one for that matter...
I guess that is why when I see topics online about certain types of books,
I steer clear of those...
Simply because I know on any given day,
I am open to reading all of it...at least once...
Because I know, you can hardly ever tell a book by it's cover...
And a risk to open the pages, just might change how you feel...

Blessings,
angelia
http://www.angeliavmenchan.com/