IT'S WHAT YOU SAY...

There have been so many times, too many to count when someone has said to me, 'Angelia, I said exactly what you said, and they took it wrong." And my response has always been it isn't necessarily what you say, but how you say it, or even the look on your face when you said it, or how you held your mouth when saying it or something. Everyone cannot say things to everyone. Much of what we can say and how we can say it is dependent upon our relationship with the persons and the arena in which it is said. Point of fact, is you can say a great deal to a person one to one, that you dare not say publicly. I think that is why many dont take sometimes good advice, because the advisor chooses a public arena to give the advice or make blanket statements that could be relevant to anyone. Also, the person has to feel the advice is well meant. Recently I sent the cover of my new book to someone and they told me the model had been used and overused in so many ways and that they felt my book was worthy of a better cover. Before I could close the email, I was researching a new cover and I was so grateful because I knew it was well meant and had my best interests at heart. And sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. It is really necessary for some of life's lesson's to come from living, we all need to experience things for ourselves. Go through, so to speak, so we come out on the other side, knowing exactly what didnt work and what did. Some of the best advice I have every received has been through listening to advice that may not have been intended for me. But othertimes I needed to dive right in, get wet. No one can learn to swim by simply placing on her toes in the water. And sometimes saying what is good advice has to be said in such way the person wishes to receive and believe it. But, I am just RAMBLING...of course. Check out Aura Brown: Life Choices angelia!