One of the greatest MYTHS of all time is that you can love,
Cohabit with, marry...another human animal,
AND NOT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH A THANG...
Come on People,
It just ain't so...
This morning the first thing I said to my husband was,
"In thirtyone days, we will be married thirtyone years..."
Sleepily he murmered,
'Ummm' and fell back to sleep...
I lay awake for a bit, thinking about a conversation,
I'd had recently with a young divorcee'...
She was telling me how when she got married,
She was determined she wouldn't put up with stuff,
The way her mama had,
She had an education, her own money and she could take care of herself...
I stayed mum...
She went on a bit further and then admitted,
She missed him and that he was a good guy,
I finally asked then what was the problem,
She told me, he wasn't ambitious enough,
He was perfectly content with the job he had,
And that sometimes he embarrassed her in front of her friends,
I knew but asked why anyway,
She told me the way he talked and didn't know a lot of stuff...
She could barely look at me,
I asked why had she married him,
She told me because she loved him,
He loved her,
He was romantic,
Wasn't caught up in male-female role playing,
And their alone time was well...GOOD...
I didn't have to say a word...
Trying to make it make sense, she said,
She left him because she felt she didn't have to put up with what he was putting down...
I told her,
"Sweetie, you sure didn't, but keep in mind this, we all have to put up with something,
as sure as someone has to put up with us, we will have to put up with them...that my child is called the compromise of life....and next time make sure that what you want is what you get,
or you will spend a lot of time leaving..."
She smiled sadly at me,
Knowing it was true...
But hopefully she was listening,
Because in this life to be coupled,
We all must learn that we have to go through something,
Put up with something,
To have something....
BE BLESSED!
angelia
