‘Why do people like the bad stuff?’ Here we go, time for some of the deep questions.
“Please explain…” I do this when biding for time…
‘Well, it seems like folks love the bad stuff. For instance when people get in a fight after school, a crowd will gather around cheering it on, but seems like when someone does something good, no one has anything to say.” Lawd!
“That’s very true. But I want to say that not all people are like that, not even the majority. However, we do have a certain number of people who seem to feed on the negatives.”
“There are a multitude of reasons. Mostly, I think the age old misery loving company. Very rarely will you find pleased, well adjusted, got it going on folks applauding mess…”
‘That’s not true, Ms. A, lots of people who have everything are sometimes the main ones caught up in drama.’
“Baby, you are confusing stuff with being pleased, well adjusted and having it going on. I’m sure you mean those fly kids with nice cars, from big houses and all the cool clothes…”
“Don’t assume that their lives are beds of roses. Many of those kids have stuff galore but they aren’t connected to anyone or anything in many cases. And they are so afraid of not being liked or accepted that they have to be in stuff to survive. Let me tell you something and I don’t ever want you to forget this. If you get everything you ever dreamed of and your heart is dark, your thinking is stinking or you aren’t grateful for your blessings, then your situation is just as bleak even if your surroundings seem golden.”
‘So that is why some of the kids who seem to have everything are so mean?’
That’s a part of it, another part is that many people find it extremely difficult to accept that others are just fine where they are, with what they are doing.”
‘Is it the same as you get old?’
“Umm, older, I’m afraid so. I see it all the time, small competitions with no real winnings. Also, I see that group who will crowd around an assassination but is no where to be found for a glorification.”
‘Really…why is that?” Whew.
“It’s because sometimes we simply grow older, and we carry a lot of what ails us with us forever. One of the most difficult things for us to do is change. Mostly because as I have told you and my kids, to change sometimes we have to change everything, even the people in our lives and that is real hard when those are people close to us.”
“Are you going to be okay and does what I said make sense.”
‘Yes, ma’am I’ll be fine. And it does make sense, but I don’t like it much.”
“Good, that’s the first step to changing…”
Angelia Vernon Menchan
Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published eighteen books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than forty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan
Menchan has also published the work of seven other authors to date and has several publishing projects upcoming in 2013 to include a children's book, Little Wing by biologist, Erin Gawera, Honorable Menchan Poets 2013 by Dictator, Genesis and Creammy Mocha and a breast cancer memoir by Lena Jordan.
She is becoming a sought after speaker for young women audiences because she speaks honestly, straight and open to the issues that plague them such as teen pregnancy, the importance of education and making life impacting choices.
Kim Floyd of Real Mommies Read, a part of the Spartanburg Public Library says:
Angelia's ability to help our teen moms see themselves as she did was a special gift. She instilled within them a desire to make better choices, take control of their bodies and their lives. They realized their pasts didn't have to determine their futures. Angelia let them know their worth.
Mrs. Menchan is available for speaking engagements; book signings and discussions. She resides in Jacksonville, Florida with her husband and graphic designer, Maurice Menchan
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679