The love blog...

‘Ms. Angelia how do you know when someone loves you…” ‘Honey what do you mean?’ Lawd I am not trying to talk about this with this child, today… ‘Well I mean how do you really know?” ‘Okay, here goes, one of the easiest way to tell is how a person treats you, when there is no agenda…they don’t want or need anything from you…they just love you…’ ‘Or what they say to people about you when they don’t know you are listening.’ ‘Sometimes you can even tell by the way they are looking at you, when they don’t know you see them looking…’ Now let me tell you some things I don’t want you to confuse for love… Anytime anyone starts a sentence with, ‘If you loved me the way I love you…’ That’s manipulation, not love… Also an “Ooh baby I love you…” right when your legs are wrapped around someone… Might be love, if it was already love… But probably ain’t if ‘love’ had never been mentioned before… Now of course, you have to know this… There is no such thing as ‘making someone love you’ or ‘once I have his baby, he will have to love me’… And the biggest thing is once you are about loving yourself… It is amazing how much love…you will generate… ‘Cause you know how when someone smiles because you are smiling… Love can be just like that, people love to be around loving people…and when you heap love on yourself…you have more love to pour on others…and please don’t think sex can do the work of love…cause it ain’t qualified… ‘Yes ma’am…I love you Ms. A.’ ‘I love you too, baby…’ Mentoring is not for the faint of heart… Let me tell you… acVernon Menchan

Smart not Hard...

Smart not Hard… Years ago I was a manager at Wal-Mart…twenty-one years in fact… I had this District Manager…who just didn’t do it for me… Not one socially redeeming value…but he taught me something… I have never forgotten…every single morning he would say… “Let’s work hard not smart.” That resonated in my heart and mind and is with me to this day… I hardly ever rush… Push myself… In fact more than a few have said… “You seem to glide through life…” I take that as a compliment… What I do is plan… Research… Then execute… I don’t shuffle paper for the sake of shuffling paper… It matters not one whit to me… About someone seeing a piece of paper… That proves my hierarchy in the chain-of-command… Or if at the end of the day… Everyone knows that my idea was the innovative one… “Child Please…” What I want is a finalized…budget, procurement, document…whatever… That proves we all got the work done… In the smartest… Least stressful… Well done way… That way at the end of the day… We can log off our computers… Grab our gear… Get in our cars… Gliding home… To enjoy the rewards that our Smart work…brings us… acVernon Menchan