I have always found myself fascinated by the shock on folk's face when they discover someone has been telling their business....particularly fascinated when they are the ones who started telling it....
The best way to have a secret kept is not to ever tell it...
I am often asked why I have so little drama surrounding me....
And I tell folks it's pretty simple, I do unto others as I would have them do unto me,
And mostly I mind my own business...when someone tells me something, confidentially, I try to be like Fort Knox...
Highly important for me is I am very careful about what I share and with whom...
I can talk all day long, but am very careful about what I put out there,
Because I know that once it hits the air it is up for grabs...
Sometimes I flub it...
Most recently I made an off-hand comment to someone,
We were actually talking about one of my books,
And I was glib about something, trying to be frivolous for a minute or two...
And every single time that person gets the opportunity to mention it,
They do, making sure there is an audience...it's actually amusing, because as my kids say, 'It ain't about nothing'
However, there is a lesson in there...for sure...
I have three major rules of thumb about who not to over-share with...
#1 THE PERSON WHO TELLS ALL THEIR OWN BUSINESS...
Anyone who tell the most intimate details of their lives can not be trusted with your business. In many cases they can't help it, they simply don't have what it takes not to tell it. So unless you want it out there...proceed with great caution....
#2 THE PERSON WHO IS NOSY OR PRYS...
This person will ask the most unbelievable questions, they always want to know the most intimate, minute details of everything. They literally froth at the mouth while asking. You have to wonder why they want the information and what they plan to do with it. I don't ask anything, my motto is, if someone wants me to know something, they will tell me...period. And I expect the same in reciprocation....
#3 THE PERSON WHO ALWAYS BRINGS IT
The Bringer is always ready to tell you negative stuff about someone, usually someone you care about, your man, your friend or a family member and they often say things like, "I'm not trying to gossip', 'I wouldn't put up with that if I were you', 'I'm just looking out for you' or something along those lines. Unless, this person has a proven track record with you, proceed with extreme caution because sometimes this one is "Misery Loving Company'....in drag....
The beauty is that if any of these things occur, it's really easy to change...just stop it, already, become quiet, and you will usually find those folks not talking to you any longer, they will move on to more fertile ground...honestly....
Smooches and Blessings,
angelia
