Writers cannot be soft…for real…there are days and times when the only person who believes in what you are doing is you…and guess what; that needs to be enough…because the one thing is that holds true always is that your dreams are for you to accomplish, through GOD’S Grace to be sure, but yours alone, mostly…
When I started writing a few years ago…I knew this, strictly from a common-sense stance, but there was something in me that really wanted and needed others to cosign on it and tell me what I was doing was awesome…and there were a few…my youngest son was immediately one of my biggest fans…my husband was also in full support, though
I have to say right here, right now that he was a bit leery of the subject matter at first, was concerned with what people would think about me writing about people who cheat, lesbians and the like…I had to kindly gently tell him, ‘Sweetie, this is not about you, but about me and my work…” Ironically, later, at the times when I was ready to quit or trying to hide my first work for whatever reason, he was my biggest cheerleader…because he had come to understand that, writing was part and parcel of what made me, Me…and he had signed up for the whole woman…
On other fronts, there were family members who for reasons only known to them were not supportive…still aren’t and I really don’t care at this point, because what I know for sure is that if I allow people to control what I say and how I say it, nothing will ever get said…as I told someone I love profoundly, only God can still my voice and change what I say…and in many ways he has…I still write about complex people with myriad issues…but much of the cussing and the teeny-weeny bit of sex I wrote about in a couple of books, have mostly faded to black, because what I had to discover for myself is that I can write and tell stories without all that…to be sure…and I also know that while I want those I love to love me, I surely don’t need their approval on how I feed my soul and earn my money…what I tell them, ‘Is get your own thing and do that, while I do my thing and we will allow our solo pursuits to be solo and our together stuff to be together…”
Just this morning, I checked my website and got a message that reinforced for me why I do what I do…and that while it might not be for everyone…the fact that there are some who want it, and even if there weren’t, I need to do it…
Message:
I just finished reviewing a copy of Mrs. Black? for OOSA online-book club. I was so impressed with Mrs. Black? I am going to read all of your other work as well. Congrats on a job well done. Anne Draper….
BE THE PEACE YOU SEEK…
Angelia
www.angeliamenchan.com
