Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Not In Love Anymore...

I was texting a friend today and it hit me,
I have fallen out of love,
Out of love with the online experience,
After over three years of checking my inbox all day, everyday,
It hit me, the thrill is gone,
Not sure why,
It occurred to me a couple months ago when many of the sights,
I once frequented were closed off at work,
And that is where I communicated from mostly,
By the time I got home,
I wanted to chill and spend Q time with my honey,
Life is so short,
So one day I realized that the time I spent online had decreased, exponentially and I wasn’t missing it a great deal…
What I did miss was some of the people that I communicated with,
But for many others I had already become persona-non-grata,
Because what I discovered is that if you don’t sign on everyday or respond to every missive, or agree with everything,
It doesn’t take long before folks move on,
As it should be I am left to assume,
But what I was ultimately left with is more time to do face time,
With folks I had been straight up neglecting,
And it allowed me to respond to those things that appealed to me and ignore those that didn’t,
Which ultimately was a stress reliever,
Maybe the love will come back one day,
And I can have an affair with it,
But I won’t marry it again,



This morning one of my friends told me he was done with dating,
He is in his mid-fifties,
Been married twice and serially dated for the past seven years and he is done,
I didn’t say a word,
I wanted to know where this was going,
And I stay quiet,
Cause I like all the details,
And I knew the history,
The writer in me, I guess…
He finally looked at Dr. A,
Waiting for her answer,
I weighed what I was going to say,
Because I know him and he has a tendency to fall for the women,
Who ‘NEED’ him,
Then one day he discovers that his needs aren’t being met,
Also he is one of those NICE guys…
You know the ones women always say they want,
But run off from as soon as a bad boy gives ‘em the time of day,
Don’t look at me like that,
You know I’m as right as rain,
So finally I said,
‘Okay, maybe you do need a break, give yourself some time to be alone…’
I am stalling…and he knows it,
He finally says,
“The reason I come to you is for the truth…”
Well okay…
So I tell him in no uncertain terms,
That he is always looking for the cutie with ‘special needs’…
That his focus needs to be on reciprocity and that he really should take the time to
Get to know these people before he is moving ‘em in with him,
And if he wants conversations he needs to find a conversationalist,
He looked at me and we both laughed a bit,
He knew I was right…
But I felt his pain,
Because what I know for sure is that no matter how accomplished we are,
How much money we have,
How great our jobs are,
How we are inclined,
Most of us want to be coupled,
We want love and to be loved,
We want to need and be needed,
Want and be wanted,
I also knew that he would get out there again,
And probably do the same things he has always done,
That is life…
And on those days Dr. A,
Will listen…