One of the hardest things to do sometimes is mind your own business,
Stay in your own lane,
However, that has always been one of my goals,
Any time that anyone comes to me for advice or information,
I will provide it to the best of my ability,
With the understanding that it is based on what has worked for me,
If it works for you...GRAND...
There are of course times when we are mandated by moral conscience to say or do something,
If someone is being harmed, especially a child, or you know that saying or doing nothing,
Is detrimental to you or someone else,
And especially when you are a mother,
Having said that, once your children are grown,
You have to learn when to pump the breaks,
Because if you have raised them properly, chances are they know what to do,
Or they know how to part their lips and ask you,
Last week I found myself in a peculiar situation,
I was in the home of my son and daughter and law,
Had never been there before, they had been married a year and there I was,
Going into their home, with them and their new baby,
The love of my heart, Amira, that baby has done a Love TKO on me, but that's a blog,
For another day...
Anyway,
My goal was simply to love on my grandbaby and mind my own business,
I have had nightmares about being a bad mother in law,
And have promised God, myself and my sons I would do all I could do not to be,
At first it was strange,
I tried so hard, I was almost comatose,
I just held the baby and sat there,
Finally though,
I realized and they admitted that we needed to define our roles,
I asked them to tell me how to proceed,
What they wanted from me,
When it was okay to offer advice or intervene,
I begged them to please tell me,
Because the only agenda I had was to love the baby, love and support them,
And do what is best for all,
I wanted to stay in my lane,
Drive carefully,
Follow the rules of road,
And be allowed to travel to and fro,
After we talked,
Straightened it all out,
I knew what and how I was to do,
And what to say and how to say it,
Which allowed all of us to get to the good business,
Being about making sure, Princess Amira,
Is loved, cared for, protected, taught and blessed!
Safe Driving,
Nana Angelia
www.angeliavmenchan.com
