Why do we struggle so hard to be accepted, even by people who don’t even matter? Fortunately I have rarely been touched by this. I have a sense of who I am and what I offer. I figure for every non-interested party there will be another party who is interested. I try to spend my time and energy on people I value, who value me. When that’s not the case I keep it moving…
This morning I was talking to a friend who felt snubbed by someone. I was exasperated with her, because I could not understand why she even cared. Then, a light went off in my head. I got it. There was something inside her needing that person’s acceptance. I called to tell her this, “Once you no longer need that person’s approval or acceptance, you will never feel snubbed again. In order to feel snubbed, there has to be something inside you needing validation by that person.” She thanked me, even though we were on the phone I could see the light bulb going off in her head.
We are going to have to own our madness. Stop projecting what is inside of us onto others. Most of the time other folks are totally unconcerned about us, they are about the business of handling their own stuff.
If someone walks past and doesn’t speak…maybe they didn’t see you…
And if it’s because they don’t want to speak…then it’s like the Fifth Dimension said:
“One Less Bell to Answer…”
If you are thinking… "They think they are better than me"…that probably ain’t true either…
You are thinking they are better than you…
Please stop it…that’s entirely too much power to allow anyone to have over you…
Work on you…
Your acceptance of you…
I guarantee…
Once you are about the business of you and the creation of…
A spiritual, confident, taking care of business being…
You will not even notice what ‘they’ are doing…saying or thinking…
You’ll be too busy living…
You, Accept…You…
acVernon Menchan
01/30/2007
7 comments:
Yes! This is right on point and I'm sure you've helped a lot of people with this today. The other important part of this is that if we are constantly worrying about what other people think of us then we will be taking precious time away from doing what we need to do... live our lives to the fullest. Thanks for another insightful post!
Thanks Gwyneth!!
love and blessings...
angelia
My copies of your books came from Amazon today! Can't wait to get a chance to read them.
“Once you no longer need that person’s approval or acceptance, you will never feel snubbed again. In order to feel snubbed, there has to be something inside you needing validation by that person.”
That is an excellent quote. I am working on that principle for my self-improvement, it is one of the hardest ones to practice for me.
Shai -
glad my words touchec you that's what it's about
angelia
hello,
found your page via ms shai! just wanted you to know that a light bulb went off in my head too...thanks for the insight!!!
Thanks Unknown Diva
stop by again
blessings
angelia, a known diva
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