EXPECTATIONS...

Expectations….

How many women are waiting expectantly for her man to get her the perfect gift today…
Quite a few I’m sure…
I have seen this for years…
Whether I was living in the south, the north, Hawaii, Europe, wherever…
Women are anxiously awaiting their man to do the right thing…if only today…bring the roses, the candy, the perfume…please don’t forget…
I am married to a man who has never forgotten Valentine’s Day, Birthday, Anniversary Day…and that’s quite feat, considering a marriage of 28+years…when we wake up on the morning of whatever day…that’s when we celebrate….not at the end of the day…when it’s almost done…that way we can spend our day knowing we love and are loved…
Does that make me special?
Or him special?
Of course it does but only to us…
The less romantic truth is that we tell each other what we want…
Each of us reminds the other of important things…
We don’t play games…
Because when you play games…no one gets what they want or what they need…
This is not only true on Valentine’s Day but of many things…
Tell him what pleases you…don’t fake anything….life is too short for that and it leaves you unsatisfied and him confused….
When you go off or complain about something he hasn’t done…
When he’d never done it before…
One of the things that has allowed my marriage to endure is we allow the other to do…
What the other is best at…no weirdness about gender roles…
We just want the work done…
So at the end of the day…
We can be about the business of…
Loving, living, laughing…

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY…
acVernon Menchan