Honesty

Honesty…
The word that covers a multitude of sins…
We all say we want it…
But do we really?
If the truth will set us free…
We had better be free to hear it…
I honestly (he he) believe that what kills so many relationships…
Is the lack of honesty…

How does a man answer this question?
“Honey am I fat?”
Or a woman answer this one?
“Was it as good for you as it was for me?”
We would all say, with honesty…and truth...
But would we really be honest…or just fake the funk…
Would he say…
“No, baby I love you…just the way you are.” While thinking,
“I sure do love you, God knows I do, but you were more appealing to me when you weighed less…”
Would she say…
“Ohhh yeah, it was even better for me.” While thinking,
“Damn, I was almost there, if only I had a few more minutes…”
Based on what I have seen and been told, most of us would take the politically correct route…
Saying what we think our partners want to hear…
While covering up how we really feel…
Unfortunately what this does is cause internal resentment…
That manifests itself in failed communications…broken relationships...faking the funk...
Many people end up in divorce court…
Unsure why…
Many times, it’s because we have not articulated our feelings, honestly…
We are so exhausted from pretending we are pleased with what…
Displeases us…
The trick is learning how to ‘speak truth’…
With love, compassion and integrity…
Getting what we need from the people we love…
And who love us…
Without leaving them devastated…
It’s not easy…it takes work…lots of work…damn it's hard...
But it’s certainly worth it…
To get what we need…to provide what’s needed…
Honestly…

acVernon Menchan...angelia