Letting Go...

Letting go of your children… particularly our sons…is one of the hardest things in the world to do…
But let go we must…
My youngest made a decision about his future…he is twenty-one years old…
He knew it was time to be man…
He didn’t ask me…
Or his dad…
He handled his business…
Then TOLD us, when it was a fait accompli…
I had never been prouder in my life…
I knew that my husband and I had raised a man…

Black Mothers…
We are going to have to learn to let these boys go…
Allow them to make mistakes…
And decisions on their own…
If we want to turn this cycle around…
Of raising our daughters…
And spoiling our sons…
We had better start now…
They need us to allow them to fail…
To stand on their own two feet…
Otherwise…
The true emasculation of Black Men…
Just might end up being…
On the backs of Black Mothers…
Love them…
Be there for them…
But allow them to grow up…
Out…
Away from us…
Please…
They need that…
And…
So do we…

Love, Blessings, and Peace…

AcVernon Menchan