Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Monday, May 7, 2007

Reciprocity

This weekend I was thinking about Lauren Hill’s song ‘Reciprocity'…
Lauren was singing about a man/ woman thang…
She wanted him to at a minimum give what she was giving…
Just a little reciprocity…
What Webster defines as…mutual dependence, action or influence…
Since I have a reciprocal love thang…
I started thinking about other relationships…
And I have to admit that I have a history of befriending…and…
Embracing people…
Who it is virtually impossible to have a reciprocal relationship with…
The friend who never has money…so you have to pay…
The friend who has had a string of bad relationships…so you can’t giggle around her…
When yours is just so lovely…
The white person you always have to translate what you are saying to…
When you are feeling real black…
Wonder why I was like that…
Always feeling a tad guilty when I was with those people…
As though enjoying my life was not supposed to happen…
Because they weren’t enjoying theirs…
I used to always say…
“It just keeps me humble…”
And I guess it does…
But there are days when I want to revel in reciprocity…
With my friends who truly get it…
When I say let’s dress up and eat out…
They say…
“Okay, girl let’s…”
Or when I am giggling, smiling and wiggling for no good reason…my friend will say…
“When it’s good, it’s real good, ain’t it?”
I can say…
“Umm hmmm…”
Or when I say….
“Hey Ms. Thang…what up…”
She will reply…
“Nuttin’ girl, just livin’…”
Trust me when I say diversity is lovely….
But some days a sista needs some sameness…
A little reciprocity…
acVernon Menchan

4 comments:

JC Martin said...

You always write something that makes me go so true, so true. I must say I have a lot in common with you, I have those type of friends also. I had to stop being the taxicab driver, because gas was always too expensive for her but I guess she didn't think it might be for me also.

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

They never think, cause we always do..Thanks Boo...

angelia

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Girl... You. Always. Bring. It. Always! I think the older we get the more important reciprocity is in our relationships, all our relationships. I think it might have something to do with our "reserve patience" running low in the latter years. LOL. But I know the things I used to be able to tolerate seem to be the same things that have me trimming down my address book. And the list of people I can talk to without them working my nerves seems to be getting shorter and shorter... Oh well, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a little reciprocity. (And I love that Lauryn Hill song by the way... Ex-Factor is my favorite!) Great post as always! I'm gonna have so much fun when I interview you.

much love and peace,

Gwyneth

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

I am looking forward to it too, Lady Gwyneth...

Love you...
angelia