Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Unequally Yoked?

I spend a great deal of time pondering…
That may be why I can write a couple hundred page book in several weeks…
So much is going on in my head…
Last night I read an article about successful women…
Married to less successful men…successful as we all know is subjective…
The corporate sister who marries the blue-collar brother…
I had to smile at that, because this is not a new phenomenon…
This story is as old as slavery…field hand, married to the cook...you feel me...
It is simply playing out differently…
Growing up most of the educated women I knew…
Nurses, teachers, secretaries…
Were mostly married to blue-collar men…hardworking, there for their wives and children men…
They worked, pooled their resources, raised their children, attended church…
Amen…
But something occurred where public exposure…
Caused some great divide…
If a man and woman weren’t equally yoked, something was wrong…
Those brothers were no longer choices…
Now we sit on seventy percent of women, who will never be partnered…
Many say they don’t want to be…
They got it going on like that…
There is some truth to that…
But a great deal of saying what feels right…
But the truth is the truth…late at night...
I can understand from a purely intellectual standpoint what is up…
The church says the man is the head of the household…
Hard for a sister to swallow when she knows who pays what…
The world says…
Man, she gonna emasculate you…all that money and listening to “the man”
Don’t even go there…get you a ….girl…she knows how to treat a man…
Then throw in friends and family and it is a slippery slope indeed…
I don’t know the answers, surely I don’t…
What I do know is that if we want to be partnered…
Loved…wanted…related…
Being equally yoked…when it comes to money and employment…
Better not be all it’s about…
Shared faith, love, family goals, and a simple desire to have coffee with…
Someone you love, desire, want and sometimes need…who reciprocates those feelings…
On a rainy Sunday afternoon…
Is a beautiful thing…
I also know that his forty and her eighty…
Is mighty weighty…
When pooled together…
And what goes on in your home…
Is your business…hers and his…nobody else's
Just food for thought…

Love and Blessings…
angelia

8 comments:

Yasmin said...

I feel you on this one...if you don't want someone else with your man keep them out of YOUR business.
It doesn't matter who makes what as long as we work together toward shared goals and objectives.

Barbara Joe Speaks said...

I like your blog and I'm looking forward to reading your books. Keep me updated with new posts and I'll keep reading...

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Yasmin -
I know you know...

Love and Blessings
angelia

BarbaraJoe...
thanks sis
Love and Blessings
angelia

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Amen. And Amen again. I feel you today, Angelia. As long as me and my man are working together, I don't care who brings what to the table. I love the fact that you reminded us of our history. We need to continue to remember that. Thanks, sis!

Gwyneth

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

That seems to be my mission, when I started blogging I knew I needed to talk something other than my books...this is one of my greatest joys...

Love You...
angelia

Jennifer C. said...

I am so connected with this it is almost hard to swallow. However, I do understand that when you allow too many parties in your relationship...it is pretty much doomed. As far as working together, if one person os putting in 75% and the other is putting in 25% that is not going to work either. And I am not referring to the money. I am talking about the effort.

As always Angelia, food for thought.

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

You are so right, everyone needs to give a hundred percent...of whatever they have...fifty-fifty is nonsense...what are you doing with the other fifty percent of yourself...donating it to charity? I am being silly but I know you feel me

Love You Jenn...
angelia

Shai said...

great post. I don't have a problem dating a blue collar man. What is important is a man who is dedicated to taking care of his business properlike.