Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




Contact information:
Website: http://acvermen.blogspot.com
Email: acvermen@yahoo.com
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679

Monday, June 4, 2007

Feeding those who feed you...

Life comes full circle…every single time…
The past couple of years found me cleaning out my friendship closets…
I was making sure that like clothes…
All the friendships that hung in there were ones I wore…
That felt good when I put them on…
And that I would wear over and over again…
This whole thing started over twenty-five years ago…
Though I didn’t know it at the time…
I remember it was nineteen-eighty one…
I was living in Germany, my husband had just received a significant promotion…
I was working on my first ‘real’ job…read ‘money’…
I was in my early twenties…had a one year old, beautiful, healthy baby boy…
I was living honey…
My mom who absolutely adored her ‘Angi’ would call me every two weeks…
And I was supposed to call her the following two weeks…
This was before fifty cents a minute international calls… a ten minute call was about thirty dollars…
Anyway…
Sometimes I would call her…
Often not…one day she told me about myself…
She said, ‘Baby I don’t care how far you go, or how much you get, you should always feed those who feed you,’ talk about a blow to the solar-plexus…
I straightened out and never forgot that…
Talked to my mom weekly from then on…daily when she was in her last days….
Well about two years ago…
I found myself in a similar, yet different situation…
I had all these friendships…
That amounted to nothing…really…
I had become friends with a gang of folks…
Through convenience…
Mostly their convenience…
I am very self-contained, hardly ever seek out folks…but they came looking for me...
My door, particularly at work always had someone in it…
I was usually exhausted by the end of the day and it had very little to do with my workload…
One day I had an epiphany…
I was surrounding myself with folks who I fed but…
Did very little to feed me…
So little by little I started reducing my intake…
While working on quality meals…
Feeding myself from a pool of folks who fed me…
It has been absolutely amazing…
How with such a limited buffet…
I am never hungry…
But completely nourished…
My mama was a wise woman…
acVernon Menchan
ac

4 comments:

Gwyneth Bolton said...

She certainly was a wise woman! I'm surprised at how hard it is to really do this kind of weeding and really being smart about the kind of people you allow to take up your energy and time. I'm getting a little better at it as the years go by... I like the phrase "feeding those who feed you." That might have to become my new mantra... ;-)

Gwyneth

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Gwyneth,
She was, indeed she was...

Love and Blessings...
angelia

CapCity said...

AMEN, AMEN! Sistah AC, sometimes like food dieting, it can be difficult to discern what's good for us & refrain from taking in the sweet, empty calories. I always enjoy my visits to your corner of the blogosphere!

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Thanks CapCity...
I have missed you sweetie...welcome back

Love and Blessings...
angelia