Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Website: http://acvermen.blogspot.com
Email: acvermen@yahoo.com
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679

Monday, September 10, 2007

BUSINESS....NOT PERSONAL...

It ain’t personal, it’s just business…
Anyone who gets that simple statement is probably capable of getting their work done…
And having relationships with folks at work that is exclusive of work…
The same is true in the book business…
Because if it is taken personally, there is a lot of time wasted and not much getting done…
And hurt feelings running amuck...
On my day job I am the final word when it comes to budgets and anything related to the budget…
My supervisor signs many things…
But I am the one that certifies the funds
And insures that money is committed, obligated and used as the government intended…
SIGH…
Every year this time, there is always someone who try as they might to get around me…
In some ‘clever’ unique way…
SIGH…
What really amazes me is how they take it personally year after year…
Knowing…
Full well that nothing changes but the date on the calendar…
So I have to say to them in clipped tones…
“This is business, not just business, but the government’s business and there is no clever way to do this…” As they stomp off down the hall, I sometimes will say, “It ain’t personal, it just is…”
SIGH…
That is exactly how I feel about the book business…
Listen writer friends everyone is not going to feel your work…
If you look at most Amazon reviews, they run the gamut based upon mostly how the reader felt about the work…
Or how they felt it was written…
Or if they were feeling it, or not…
Maybe I am naïve, but in most cases, I am sure it is not personal…
Especially when you have sent it unsolicited to be reviewed…
So just keep in mind that there is a lesson in everything…
Take from it what can make you grow and chuck the rest of it…
Life really does go on…
And usually it gets better…
Also take every promise with a grain of salt…
Some people really mean it when they say they are going to do something…
Others are just blowing smoke…
So assume it is all smoke…
Until you see fire…
For my co-workers…
I say there is always next year…
LAUGHING…

angelia

7 comments:

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Now you have me humming that old Jermaine Jackson song... "Don't take it personal...." :-)

Gwyneth

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Hum on sister...

Love and Blessings...
angelia

Yasmin said...

Rule #2
Don't Take It Personal.
From Miguel Ruiz

When I was going through some personal attacks and too much drama with a former friend, and cringing everytime I saw her online, I had to not only learn to let her and her ish go...but also remember rule #2 from the Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. Not only should I not take it personal but I also had to remember that it ain't about me...hurting people, insecure people, devious people, people who have issues hurt others. I need to remember not to allow hurt/dismayed/jealous/mean-spirited people to rain on my rain...because their issue really isn't with or about me...it's about THEM!

Good blog...thanks for posting on this fine Monday morning!
xoxo

JC Martin said...

I cannot afford to take everything personal, due to the fact that I have plenty of close and personal dramas in my face. People really have to step back and realize that everything is not always about you...so nope don't take it personal...it is just life.

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Thanks for that Lady Yasmin

So true Jen, so true...

Love and Blessings,,,

angelia

CapCity said...

thanx for this reminder as i begin to tread into the book biz, Sistah Angelia:-)...it's easy for me to remind others of it - now i need to remember it, too! lol!

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

That's what I seem to be here for sweetie...giggling...

blessings...
angelia