Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Website: http://acvermen.blogspot.com
Email: acvermen@yahoo.com
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Who's Idea of Woman?

Hey Family,
this morning I am going to ramble and rant,
One of my pet peeves is how narrowly we choose to define a WOMAN,
This weekend at my booksigning, a brother who had read half of my second book raised his hand saying,
"In my mind, I could only see Cinnamon as naked at the stove." Hmm
You could hear the rumble in the crowd as many sisters took exception to that,
They had read the whole book and the other books in many cases,
However, a quiet sister in the back said,
"I agree with him, she wasn't an astute woman at all."
Okay, wasn't sure how much she had read but she didnt know the lady either...
My thing is this,,,
A woman can be whatever and however she chooses to be,
Hard-nosed, take no prisoners professional,
Who does it all for herself, she will get no argument from me,
Or,
She can stay at home raising uber kids, cooking filet and baking brownies,
And meet her man in the door in mules and a negligee, still okay with me...
In my mind, no one gets to decide what defines a woman,
As women we get to change whenever we want to, in any way that we want to...
I have been a business woman since I was fourteen years old,
Sold book reports, term papers, had a job on the weekend and was the candied-apple, making and selling queen, money in da bank, ya'll...
However, I loved dressing up on the weekends and dancing for hours with my friends,
The same has been true of my adult life,
I have a career,
And the respect of my peers and co-workers,
While maintaining a couple of small businesses,
But I love my man,
And there are days when I come home and cook him a great meal,
Because I want to,
And will serve him at the table and on the table, winking....
And will apologize to no one for being any of those,
Or all of those,
Because all I am is a woman by defintion,
Who knows what works for me,
And mine,
I will allow all people to do what works for them,
And expect the same from others,
Know this, a woman can be PAMPERED and POWERFUL,
While PAMPERING and EMPOWERING...
Don't be fooled...

Love and Blessings,
Angelia

10 comments:

GENESIS said...

Amen to that! That's why my page reads

I am all I am...

no one can dispute that!

great post

Genesis aka G-Nice

Angelia... said...

Thanks G-Nice,

Love you boo...

smooches,
angelia

Anonymous said...

I agree with you sis! Had they read the WHOLE BOOK the comment that was made would not have even come out. There are still others who will judge before knowing all of the facts.
Cynthia

Angelia... said...

Cynthia,
Let them say whatever they want, people have judged me the same as they do my characters and they have been unable to stop me and they won't be able to still my voice, I will write characters who are true to the voices in my head and they will be good, bad and indifferent...otherwise what is the point of writing...

Love and Blessings,
angelia

JC Martin said...

When we all have the same one-mindedness are we still considered to be unique? The characters in your book...yes I have read them from cover to cover...as in any authors book does not have to be of what society would call the every day norm, for if they were it would be pointless to read books, when everyone is the same. The same thing goes for a woman, if we were all alike is it safe to say that they would be attracted to us all? Of course not, so why should we envision a strong, confident, hair-hanging, know-what-I-want mature woman, in the kitchen in the nude cooking dinner?

I would hope to believe if you want to add some spice to more than just your food as a woman you can.

I am going to stop, because they done got me started.

Angelia... said...

That's telling 'em Jennifer, I am going to start taking you with me,

smooches,
angelia

Anonymous said...

a woman can be PAMPERED and POWERFUL,
While PAMPERING and EMPOWERING...

Sho you right! LOL You ain't nevah lied, my sister! I'm pampered and powerful (he says it what excites him about me) and when I pamper him; he becomes empowered (helps him to face this big old bad world where a Black man is a serious commodity). Smiles.

Too bad I had to wait to get to this age to understand the formula!

Cinnamon DuBois Brown was and is the most astute sistah that I have ever met. What she was able to pull over in her relationships with everyone in her life is what I would love to accomplish in mine!

To everyone; Cinnamon was daBomb! And she continues to walk around in my head several months after I have read the books....

Now tell me that ain't a baaad character. LOL

Idrissa

Sojourner G said...

Any attempt to define any individual, group or trait is doomed to come up short.
Keep representin' sis!

Angelia... said...

Queen I,
I knew you knew in fact I mentioned your message about the unbelievability factor that night,

smooches,
angelia

Sojourner G,
thanks for coming by my Sistah,
I will rep this thing to the last day, please believe...

blessings,
angelia

shelia said...

"...a woman can be PAMPERED and POWERFUL, While PAMPERING and EMPOWERING..."

Say it again sister...I so agree.