Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Wednesday, January 30, 2008

You Better Ask!

I am always astonished by grown folks, mostly women,
Who are moaning about what they aren't getting...
My first question is did you ask...
So many look at me as though I am nuts!
I am, but that's a blog for another day...
I tell them of course not,
But if you want something from someone,
You need to ask for it, otherwise your chances of getting it are nil...
On a job, if you are feeling underpaid and overworked, asking for a raise,
Is not the end of the world...worse case scenario, you will be told no, which will leave you with some decisions to be made...or you might even get one...
I learned this in my twenties,
I was working in retail management and discovered that a male counterpart,
With less seniority was outearning me,
For several days I was fuming, I talked to my mom about it,
She asked, 'What did they say?"
"What did who say?"
"Your bosses of course, surely you asked?"
Of course I hadn't but I did and recieved an immediate raise, hadn't gotten one because I hadn't asked...
The same is true in relationships...
So many women tell me, "He didn't get me what I wanted for my b'day (fill in other event)"
The first question I ask is, 'Did you tell him what you wanted'...
"Well, no...why should I have to do that."
After I get done rolling my eyes, I say, 'You should do that to get what you want...because obviously, not asking isn't working for you..."
Many say, "That isn't very romantic"...
I tell them it can be, because it sure isn't romantic to get something you don't want over and over again,
And complain about it...whereas...
Asking for and getting what you want, can become real romantic, with a Quickness, but hey don't listen to me, though I know that if you always do, what you always did, you will always get what you always got..."

So if you really want something, YOU BETTER ASK!



Gwyneth Bolton said...

I remember seeing a quote, "you'd be surprised by what you don't get when you don't ask..." Great post, sis. I'm linking to you.


msyonnie said...

Mmm mm mm shaking my head, i was just telling a friend this lastnight however she iggs what i say so she'll learn the hard way. You gone head and preach it sista!!

Angelia... said...

Thanks Lady Gwyneth,

I am telling 'em what I know!


Yasmin said...

though I know that if you always do, what you always did, you will always get what you always got..."

AMEN! Well said!

Angelia... said...

smart women know to ask...


NickyJett said...

She asked, 'What did they say?"
"What did who say?"
"Your bosses of course, surely you asked?

Now I know where revolutionary women come from - Revolutionary Moms! Go 'head Queen! You are quickly becoming one of my favorite reads!

As they say in the hood..."You better 'axe' somebody!"

Angelia... said...

Thanks NickyJett,

You are right about it, I indeed, "Got It From My Mama"...


Shani Greene-Dowdell said...

How does the other saying go, "closed mouths don't get fed." Fits here too.

Great post!

Angelia... said...

"closed mouths don't get fed."

My youngest son says this...I say umm hmmm


GENESIS said...

Ask and ye shall receive...

always worked for me, but I'm usually not disappointed with anything I get that I haven't asked for... I really don't ask for much so when i receive something, I LOVE it... and it helps that I'm pretty easy to

But you have some that don't ask SO they can complain... whew, I really don't understand those types

one luv

Angelia... said...

Thanks G-Nice,

Hope you are njoying you B'Day...


phyllisann said...

How does it go "We have not because we ask not". This was right on Sister Angelia.

Phyllis Ann

Angelia... said...

Thanks Phyllis Ann,
I appreciate you stopping by!