Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Slowing Down...

Those of you who come by Ramblings regularly have probably noticed my posts have slowed way down the past couple of months,
And that saddens me a bit, because Ramblings is one of my favorite things to do,
It allows me to clear my head, share my thoughts and at times even vent,
Every now and then I have even said things that made sense,
Well as we (women) are sometimes inclined to do,
Once we become overwhelmed and tired,
We give up those things we love to do,
We continue to meet our obligations,
And say yes to the multitude of things and people that cross our paths,
That has certainly been true in my case,
Somewhere around the end of the year,
I felt myself running out of what I needed to sustain myself,
But I continued to say yes to everything and sundry,
That came along,
At work I have been doing the job of three for over a year,
Anytime anyone called with a project my hand was the first to go up,
And don’t let a young person have an issue,
Mama was on the case,
On the other hand,
I was writing sporadically, convincing myself that I needed to slow down,
When writing fills me with unbridled joy!
I was allowing books I would have devoured at one time to pile up on my floor and on my shelf, spilling over, unread,
In all arenas the things that filled my soul and gave me joy,
Were going undone,
Filled with have-tos,
The final straw was last week when I was too tired to get out of my bed for three days in a row,
I went to the doctor and she told me I was exhausted, dehydrated and running on empty,
She complimented me on clear eyes and nice skin,
Telling me that everything else was suffering,
Then because she knows me,
She asked about writing, mentoring and reading,
Tears filled my eyes,
Because I hadn’t been doing any of those things,
In the quantities required to sustain me,
I had become an automaton,
A machine,
I knew I needed to regroup, reassess and get me back to where I needed to be,
I also knew that ironically I would have to do what I have been telling others to do and had even written a book about,

Love and Blessings,


Gwyneth Bolton said...

I feel you, sis. I need to practice this myself. One day...


Angelia... said...

Hey Lady Gwyneth,
I was about to send an APB out for you...hope and pray all is well, I didnt practice it until I had to...don't do it my way...

Love and Blessings,

Shelia said...


It's good that you know when you need to pull away and do for you. I'm taking a 2 month sabbitical to do so this summer.

Angelia... said...

a sabbatical is what is needed, my plan is take it easy until the fall, making sure I spend time with my loved ones, write because I love it, read what I want to read, and rest when my body tells me to...


JC Martin said...


You have to care of yourself first. I know you love to be there for everyone one but you have to take care of you in order to be there for others. Take it easy. Do a little reading or maybe a lot to soothe your love for reading. Jot a few words on paper to tickle you writing bug, but most of all sit down in your favorite chair and let the walls of your house stare at you.

Angelia... said...

Thanks Jen,
that is where I am, I have cleared my calender of commitments, and am on my way back to myself...

Love You

Anonymous said...

Hey sister its me. Glad to know that you are wise to know when to take a break. I love you dearly and you are my one and only so yes, PLEASE SAY YES TO YOU First. Thats why I love you much because you can listen to yourself as well as others. I will see you soon.....

love ya
Lil sis Val

Angelia... said...

Hey Sister,
girl I had to, I have been hustling like Master P and I got tired...had to chill...God takes care of his children but we have to know when to take care of ourselves...Love you like pound cake...

Love always...
Ms Ann

Book Manaic said...

I am still trying to figure out how to slow down and say No... love the article as always


Angelia... said...

it becomes easy when you are flat on your butt, unable to move...smiling...but try not to wait for that, we live in a culture that is constantly telling us we have to be in constant motion and that we aren't living full lives if every minute isn't filled with activities or stuff...we also live in a culture filled with stress, rage and illness that is directly contributable to being too busy...


Yasmin said...


And that's okay...sometimes we have to practice more of this in order to maintain our sanity and health! Take care of yourself because if you're not feeling well you're no good to yourself or anyone else.

Anonymous said...

Do you mama deep! That's what's most important. There is no you without you.

love u bunches