Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Wednesday, June 4, 2008

It's What They Aren't Saying!

We have all been taught to listen carefully to what people say,
And how they say it,
Just last week one of people in my office was talking to me about a project and
Wanted me to buy in to what they had done,
Knowing that it wasn’t going to happen because they had gone beyond the parameters of what should have occurred, I knew I had to speak on it…
I knew that my kindler, gentler approach wouldn’t work,
So I gave it to him straight-no chaser,
When we are talking 100Ks that is the only way to do,
I saw some gulping, and a bit of swallowing,
Finally understanding and clarity,
After that we discussed other things,
Upon his departure he said something that,
Touched me beyond work,
“Thanks Angelia, I just learned a lot, because I know that I had to focus on what you were saying, not how you were saying it…” I smiled graciously,
Because often we miss our lessons when we listen to the how and not the what…
However, many times you can see a person’s position based on what they don’t say,
On this momentous occasion, where for the first time in history an African American is the Democratic nominee,
Not one person has uttered a word,
The silence is deafening,
Only because for the past eight years there have been comments ad nauseum,
About the current administration and how ready for change everyone is,
Not only hasn’t a word been said,
But the newspaper hasn’t even been unfolded,
Again unprecedented,
As the only AA person in my office,
That speaks volumes,
Whether it is realized or not,
Because many times, it is what they aren’t saying,


Peace!
angelia

12 comments:

'Cilla said...

Listening skills have been taken for granted... people run off with their mouths without listening to the entire statement. While others have selective hearing and take in what they want to hear... I am glad my mother taught me to listen before I speak...
Great article Angelia :-)

'cilla

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Thanks 'Cilla,
many aren't listening because they are too busy waiting for their opportunity to speak...giggling...

Blessings,
angelia

Anonymous said...

many aren't listening because they are too busy waiting for their opportunity to speak...

I believe that is sooo true, Angel.

I've learned how to listen, didn't always...LOL But now I know!

Idrissa

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Thanks Queen I,

Love You Madly!!

angel

Yasmin said...

That speaks volumes,

YES IT DOES!
xoxo

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Yas,

you know it does!

Smooches,
angelia

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Mmmm... hmmmm.... yes indeed, yes indeed... ;-)

Gwyneth

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Lady Gwyneth...

now we know silence is only sometimes golden, sometimes it's plain old tarnished brass...

GRINNING...
angelia

Jennifer C. said...

Oh wee! I hear ya.

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

(((((HUGS))))

SMOOCHES!

mama deep

Anonymous said...

You're right. So many times folks are so busy waiting to have their say, they aren't listening and might miss out on hearing something key.

Anonymous said...

That's the real...for real

Hugs

G-Nice