Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Monday, July 14, 2008

Confidentially Speaking?

Assuming someone is of like mind and interests is a huge leap of faith,
I have seen relationships fail miserably because of that assumption,’
No two people see eye to eye on everything, and in the right context,
Opposites is a beautiful thing,
That brings me to the knowing who to trust thing,
Many people claim ‘friendships’ and immediately start trusting,
Assuming that because a person has befriended them, they are of like minds,
Usually the person does not find out otherwise, until something goes wrong, very wrong,
One of those deal breakers is having a confidence compromised,
In this day of emails, text messages and instant messages,
Way too many people are sending stuff to ‘friends’,
Assuming that they aren’t going to ‘tell’ anyone,
What they had better know is the best way to keep something secret,
Totally secret, is to never tell it,
Because what happens is a friend tells a friend, who tells a friend, and if in that chain,
Someone ain’t your friend,
Are you following me yet?
I had a funny experience about a year ago,
Someone I conversed with online,
Sent an email to someone asking them what they thought of me,
Unfortunately they sent it to someone who felt the need to send it to me,
My response was to ignore it, not discussing with either person,
But taking it for what is was worth,
Because what I know for sure,
Is that anyone who does unto someone else,
Has the potential to do unto me,
So my take on is this,
Unless one is absolutely, unequivocally sure about the other person’s loyalty,
Don’t put it out there like that,
It is one thing to dispute what someone said you said,
It is something else altogether to deny what is written,
And saved!
This one is free!

Love You Madly!


Gwyneth Bolton said...

Go on and tell it, sis! As my mother used to say 'any dog that can bring a bone can carry a bone...' I try not to say anything to anyone that I wouldn't have a problem with anyone else knowing. The only thing you can truly keep secret is that which you keep to yourself. You have told the truth this morning, sis.

Great post!

JC Martin said...

I have to agree with you on that one. I only say things I'm not afraid to tell to whoever ask me. As well as I only do things I know I won't be ashamed of.

This blog topic is a conversation I have with my daughter, about walking away from gossip and he-said-she-said. I tell my sons to be careful who they call friend, not everyone is a friend. I have to tell them differently because of the age, but I'm making sure they know the woes of the world.

Great topic.

Angelia... said...

Somebody had to say something, I continually hear these conversations and I cringe everytime....

that is a great practice to provide kids, my mama taught us and I heed her warnings,

Love and Blessings,

CaroleMcDonnell said...

In this world where we all fit into so many categories it's definitely hard to find folks of like mind. It's rare and a blessing if one gets one. But for the most part what one can hope for are very sweet polite ethical friends who agree to disagree. Then the friendship can work.

I know what you mean about that emailing thing though. Once I got an email offlist from a Christian group I was part of. They had been discussing me and one of them accidentally sent the email to me. Another time I accidentally sent an email about someone to the same person I was whining about. Aaargh! One has to be soo careful.

We DO get into those modes where we think friendships are made instantly, though. And you're so right.. we have to be careful. As I like to tell my son, "Six months isn't a friendship, it's a trial membership." -C

Angelia... said...

I used to cringe everytime one of my sons would call someone friend after a few days, they both learned, however, sometimes the hard way....smiling


Book Manaic said...

Angelia... you are always "right on time" with your blogs. I have seen people lose jobs, friends, and businesses from a simply "forward" of an email. Scary... I am very hesitant about comments I make on line and particular things the begin "For OUR EYES ONLY" .. After all, do we really trust everyone that wer have met on line that well.

I also have to remind my son - Keep it to yourself if you don't want any one else to know about it.

Great Post!!

Angelia... said...

it pays to be careful, people often tell me I go real quiet at sticky subjects, they are absolutely right...I only say something when I don't mind being quoted...


Yasmin said...

Headed to a meeting but wanted to stop through and show some love.