Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Tuesday, July 29, 2008

The Past in Place

One thing I have learned is that the past is over at midnight,
I know that sounds simple and it is,
One of the hardest things for people to deal with is that once something is done,
There is very little that can be done to change it,
It is past…
Now that in no way means, we shouldn’t learn from the past,
Using events that have taken place as stepping stones and avenues to where we are trying to go,
And we certainly shouldn’t forget those who went before us,
Paving the way,
What I’m trying to say, however, ineloquently is that becoming mired down,
In past hurts, grievances and pain,
Will stop you cold from having a FUTURE,
Some of the most debilitated people I know,
Have their hearts, minds and souls so wrapped around,
What ‘usta be’ that they are unable to move on,
When talking to my young lady on Friday,
I allowed her to flow,
Just tell me what was going on,
Had gone on, what had caused her to make decisions that had shaped her,
Per usual it was past hurts, mama, daddy, and ‘nem…
I totally understood,
However, I told her to refocus, now that she had finally said it,
And work on personal,
Because what I have discovered,
Is that when we are busy about the business,
Of becoming whole,
By doing what is necessary,
We have very little time to be caught up in the chokehold the past can have on us,
It’s particularly difficult because sometimes it means letting go of people,
Those whose power over us is to remind of what we were or what we had done,
In order to keep us connected to them in misery,
That saying about misery loving company is a true truth,
And as I told my children,
The best way to move forward is to get in crowd that is moving in that direction,
Who are about the business of positive growth and possibilities,
With eyes focused on the Future,
Will full appreciation of what went before,
While understanding that at 12:01 am,
It’s a new day!

Love and Blessings,


CaroleMcDonnell said...

Very, very true. The past is the past. Whether good or bad. If "Usta be" was great, it just makes us idolize and think we have fallen from some great golden age. And if "usta be" was crappy, then all we do is try to find justice and repair the past. Not good choices either way. I'm so glad your mentee has you. Sometimes they don't listen to good advice because it's hard to refocus but I hope she listens to you. That kind of thinking about the past thing can be addictive and turn into obsession. Unfortunately, I know whereof I speak. have a blessed week. -C

Angelia... said...

Thanks Sister Carole,
we have all been there,,,the blessings are in when we have guidance and love to move us on...


Gwyneth Bolton said...

Go ahead and tell it, sis! You are bringing it as usual. I pray the young sister is listening, letting go and moving forward.


shelia said...

True. The past can't be changed, you can only change "the now" and work towards the future.

Angelia... said...

Lady Gwyneth,
So far so good, my son told her at the gate, "my mama is a tough, soft woman..." He should know...


Angelia... said...

That is it Shelia,
that is it!!


Yasmin said...

It's a NEW's called the Present because it's a GIFT and it's time to remember and act upon:
'The best way to move forward is to get in crowd that is moving in that direction,"
Nothing but the truth.
Work it out sis and keep shining the light.

JC Martin said...

Let her know, it's hard living in past hurt and pain. I know I've been there, but when you get past it Life looks more like roses and butterflies.

I pray she listens and learns from you.

Great topic and advice as always.

Angelia... said...

Thanks Yas and Jen,
keep us in prayer!


Anonymous said...

I have "It's A New Day" taped to the front of my desk at work...for ALL to see. One day, they'll finally get 'it'

Great post!