Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




Contact information:
Website: http://acvermen.blogspot.com
Email: acvermen@yahoo.com
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679

Friday, September 4, 2009

The Toughest Love...

I am sure most of us of a certain age remembers our parents saying, right before or during a spanking...'this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you'
Sure mom, whatever you say,
But the truth is that love and discipline is hard,
Real hard,
Many times as a mother, mentor, whatever,
It is just easier to give in,
To give them what they ask for,
Even when you know you shouldn't,
Because let's be honest,
It gets them out of your face and relieves having to deal with it,
I have tried mostly to love strong,
And also tough when necessary but sometimes I make arbitrary decisions,
Hoping and praying that this one time it will be different,
I did that over the past couple of months with someone I love dearly,
Made some concessions,
Did some above and beyond things,
And yesterday it occurred to me that, I was...
Dang,
'I was just wrong'
What I was doing more than anything,
Was giving myself some breathing room,
Because I was tired of dealing with it,
And hoped that by being generous to a fault,
I would engender some kind of action,
Well I did,
I wore myself out,
So I had to back up, turnaround,
Handle my business as I was meant to do,
Even if it were as painful to me,
More probably than it was to them,
Sometimes I have to love myself a bit softer...hmmm hmmm

Have a wonderful Friday and pick up a copy of Mrs. Black?
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LOVE!
angelia

4 comments:

CaroleMcDonnell said...

Ah, woman! I so comprehend. Been trying to make my hubby see and understand this. Yeah, it's all his fault... :-)

Have a blessed say. -C

Anonymous said...

In the long run they will see that until they make the consessions, themselves nothing no one else can do for them.....thats what momma always did for us. It work for me(smile), I appreciate it then and now It will be alright....Hold on change is coming. Love You

Angelia... said...

Carole :)

Sister, Sister,
dont I know it but every now and then we hope it's different...

Dera Williams said...

Yep, sometimes we gotta step back and take care of self.