Hottest Urban Fiction Reviews: Mrs. Black? By: Angelia Vernon Menchan

Hottest Urban Fiction Reviews: Mrs. Black? By: Angelia Vernon Menchan: When I first entered this story the drama was flowing and I loved it, loved it well enough to want to read more.As I read more I learned th...

LOVING ONE'S OWN LIFE...

I love my life, always have, even when it wasnt necessarily what I thought it should be. Somehow I had enough sense to know that God gave me the life he gave me and if it weren't the one I was supposed to have...well you know... What we choose to do with what we are given is something else altogether. I decided early, actually at about 12, that I would control my life to the extent that God allowed. I started little businesses, so I could afford the things I wanted. I knew my needs were provided for but was taught that to get in wants, I had to put in work. By 13 and half, I was actually working a job. I never felt it was too much for me, though it might have been for others, it was just the way it was. I am geared to making it work. I recall the early years of marriage when we met all our needs, barely. It never occurred to me to bail. I simply focused on my part, getting educated and working towards the future and supporting this man I loved enough to tie myself to. I also accepted that once he was my husband he was first, mama and them were my loved family, but after God, the man I married was first and that is probably why I am still married. I watch young people relationship and even marriage hop because they dont have the patience to wait until things get better and many dont feel that they should have to contribute, I ask, where do they do that at these days. It takes all of us doing our part. And many dont get that marriage means putting relationships in priority and perspective order, family, friends, jobs and all cannot come before a mate, if there is any expectation of success. And of course there is the comparative analysis that goes on. If friends have bigger cars, nicer apartments, get their nails done more often, then we are no longer happy with what we have, we want what they have and lose enjoyment in ours, that is so not grown or grateful. Many times we never achieve anything because we spend too much time consumed with others and what they have or are doing. We are not Loving Our Own Lives enough. We cannot see what we have if we focus on what we don't. We can't stay married or in relationships, if we spend all our times with our hands out in reaching and not giving and doing. I love my life, I know what my priorities are and I work each day to do all I can to keep what I have and am willing to wait on God to bless me with what I don't and HE has never failed me once. I get up each morning with a man who loves me, have good relationships, a job that I like, another job (writing) that I adore and which allows me to meet the coolest people and one thing I know for sure that this was meant for me and there is much that is meant for others, they just have to be open to THEIR OWN BLESSINGS, starting with appreciating what they already have. JUST RAMBLING... angelia

I AIN'T MAD...

One of my goals is to stay positive, I am usually good about it, to the extent of sometimes being told by people, I don’t get mad enough. They just don’t know, I have been delivered from mad. For many of my young adult years I stayed mad about something. What I had to learn was that, mad solves nothing and you give away a great deal of your power to the people who keep you heated up. They are going on with their lives and you are mad and filled with mad maladies, like stress, high blood pressure and wrinkles. Ugh. So this morning, I am going to vent just a bit about something that doesn’t necessarily make me mad, but it is exhausting and that is not doing what one says they are going to do. And it is particularly exhausting when it comes from those who put down others for the same thing. Here is the thing, if you tell me, promise me, assure me you are going to do something. I have this weird, freaky, expectation (I know, expect nothing) that you will do it. I admit I am horrible at reminding people of things because if you have said you will do it, that’s good enough for me. I am of the mindset, you are a professional, I am a professional, my word is bond yo, your word is bond, yo! I would actually prefer a no I can’t do that or no I won’t do that, so that I can go on and find someone who will. I am also afflicted with a huge sense of loyalty and will stick with someone until they are absolutely unstickwithable. I find myself at this juncture and it saddens me a bit, but common sense and bottom line is telling me to move on. I cannot continue to call myself a business woman and spend time trying to do business with those who aren’t taking my business seriously. So here I am today all prayed up about this thing and I am moving on and forward and have found a way to get this done with a contract and a business minded attitude henceforth because frankly I can’t afford to lose any more time or money. As I tell my young people, life goes on… Angelia

SMALL THINGS, HUGE BLESSINGS...

It really doesn't take much to bless a person, sometimes all it takes is a smile or a kind word. Sometimes when I am feeling a bit blue, I will receive a text message from my husband, sons, sister or sister friends and it is like a ray of sunshine on a rainy day. Last weekend I was visiting my home town and I sat with my Aunt Alice for about three hours, mostly listening to her talk, and I knew it was a big deal for her, didn't cost anything and we were both blessed with the other's company. It isn't something I can do often, but when it comes together and I can, I leave feeling rejuvenated and my prayer is that she does also. Yesterday, I spoke to a young friend who had lost her sister and all I said, mostly was that I love her and I started talking about other things and it was easy for both of us. Sometimes when we arent sure what to say, we simply need to open our mouths and pour out our hearts. Other times we simply need to be quiet and listen, there are times when I family and friends just want to vent and having us be there for that is one of those teeny, tiny loving things. Also if you know someone loves something, when you can, give it to them. Last week at a booksigning my friend Beverly gave me several chocolate mints in a bag, it felt like Christmas, she knows I love them and the fact that she thought of it warmed my heart. If you know a friend likes romance novels, send her one when she least expects it, or a note, or card that brings back memories. I love when my sons drop by, immediately go in the pots or the refrigerator and sit with their dad and I and talk, sometimes we dont say a word, we are on our computers or watching the news, but the fact that they took time to drop by is a blessing to and for us. It really doesnt take much or much time to bless someone with loving kindness... BE A BLESSING! angelia

THE MINISTRY...

As most of my readers know, I have been writing and publishing my work since 2006, here I am 14 books later and still doing what I do pretty much on my own terms, haven't gotten rich yet, at least not monetarily but my books have brought me wealth, a wealth of readers, other writers, friends and relationships, mostly it brought me to this ministry of mine, to reach as many as I can by writing. I have mentored more young folks than I can count, and writing allows me to reach any further. Writing also introduced me to people who will actually sit and listen to me speak and in some cases pay me to do so...BLESSINGS...

Also it has allowed me to support breast cancer research which is near and dear to my heart...

I have become known as that keep it real, honest writer with a spiritual bent and I embrace and accept that, but I know that it isnt me, not at all, it is me finally listening to what God has asked of me and doing it the best I can. I am just a 5'10" inch vessel, and I am grateful, grateful, grateful and I know that it has only just begun...

angelia

Where Has She Been?

Oh My,
it has been more than a minute since I have been at my own spot. October ran me over like a thunderstorm, grinding it out on the day gig, end of FY and all that and with my new baby, The Blacks: LOVE'S Politics being released in September,I have been out there getting the word out. And there have been so many life lessons, some I had to learn regarding me and some I had to be involved in regarding others.

I have had to accept the seasonality of relationships. That some last forever and ever and some are simply summer, winter, spring or fall. I dont like it, because I love those forever heart ties. But realizing that sometimes letting go is what is up and I plan to and I have.

I also accepted that I cannot take on everything. I will always write and publish my work. Priority. I love being asked to come to schools and speak to groups. Priority. I love my home life and down time, PRIORITY, PRIORITY. As such, I now have to say no I cannot, no I will not or maybe later.

God has been so awesome to me and I need to realize that I cannot bungle it up by not spending my time (HIS time)wisely, I know to Praise and Thank him and utilize this write and mentor thing because those are his blessings to me. So, now that I have gotten myself together (kinda) I will PRAISE more, blog more (may have another blog gig soon) write more and get myself out there and talk to the people because that loved ones is what I am called to do. And if you dont have your copy of THE BLACKS: LOVE'S POLITICS pray tell why.

http://www.amazon.com/Blacks-LOVES-POLITICS-Beginnings-ebook/dp/B005LH5V1U/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1320151891&sr=1-1
BE BLESSED!
angelia