Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan




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Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679

Monday, September 28, 2009

SELF-PROTECT...

I have a bad habit, though many consider it a loving habit,
It is not good…always,
I have a tendency to always place the needs of those I love before mine,
Started when I was a young girl,
Felt that if I were good and did the right thing,
It would make the craziness surrounding me easier,
It actually did to a certain extent,
But didn’t change a thing,
People still did what they wanted to,
How they wanted to,
When they wanted to,
I carried that into marriage and motherhood,
Many times I felt like the marriage was mine to work on,
And I could make it work,
All by my Amazonian self,
That worked too, for awhile,
Fortunately with that when I got tired,
My man recognized and allowed me to not do as much,
Guess he was waiting for me to let some things go…
Then I became a mama,
Lord my goal was the be the best mama on the planet,
And I was a good one,
However, I recognize that I was too much of a fixer,
Standing in the way as a cushion for some of the bumps that I should have allowed them to take,
As such they are NOW learning that the ground is mighty hard,
And that when we fall it hurts, like a you know what…
And that is good…
Because I learned, well I am learning that loving someone does not mean,
Taking on their burdens, or trying to fix 'em...
That men and women are formed from their trials and that sometimes,
Every now and then,
Amazons need to just chill,
And self-protect!

BE BLESSED!
Angelia
www.angeliavmenchan.com
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7 comments:

'Cilla said...

I learned this one the hard way... I have always trued to overcompensate for not being what others expected or wanted of me.. all it has done is cause me to be tired from oever extending myself for them... Great Food for Thought :-)

Angelia... said...

Girl,
we always know it, but our innate desire to be loved (worshipped :)} leads us to overdo...

Love!
angelia

devi of the rose said...

Angelia,

Thanks for this piece. Many a woman (myself included0 will see themselves in this. I think true maturity comes for women when we learn who and what to say no to--without guilt.

All the best,
Dee

Angelia... said...

Thanks Dee!

angelia

Dera Williams said...

A hard lesson to learn but so true.

Yasmin said...

AMEN and so true...as adults we need to care about ourselves more than anyone else...and until we do that no one else can help us. But...sometimes as women...w tend to be our own worst enemy when it comes to those we love the most...we either love them too much or not enough...we have to find the balance so that we don't neglect us in the process and lose our minds up in here up in here. ;)
xoxo

Angelia... said...

Yas,
my sister, we learn when we learn...make sure you tell Lauren!

Smooches!
angelia