This morning I was thinking about something that plagues people and holds them back from enjoying life, and that is thinking that a person who loves someone who doesnt love you, cant love you both...confused yet? Well dont be mother is going to break it down...I love my extended family...there are some though who feel that if I love them, then I wont associate with people they dont like...sorry, but your relationships have nada to do with me...if I dig the person and they dig me, we can be friendly and not have it affect our thing in anyway...honestly...
See, the same thing at work...coworkers not mingling, not because the person has done anything to them, but because of someone else's situation...
I see it alot...where I am concerned...because check this out...if I like someone ,or befriend someone that is MY relationship with that person...has nothing to do with anyone else...and if I like you then that is us...if the two or three of you cannnot get along, I am sorry about that, but I will not tailor my relationships to accomodate someone else's drama...however, if you make a decision that you don't want to deal with anyone who does not cosign on your madness...that is a choice and I totally support grown folks choices...do your thing...
Life is short and love is sparse and we should all work as fervently as possible on maintaining loving relationships. Alas, we should probably also clean our closets of those that bring trouble and messiness...
What I am saying, in short is this, is that if I like you, love you, can't get enought of you, there is no one, except possibly YOU, who can change that. I wont talk about you or any other negative thing when with others...and won't allow them to do it either, but I will choose my own relationships...because IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOVE THEM AND YOU~
BE PEACE~
angelia
www.angeliamenchan.com
4 comments:
I know it's possible because I've done it. I like the wife but not the husband. Or in my husband's case one of his good friends from childhood, I can't stand, but I would never give up my spouse because of him. So I get it and I understand what you are saying.
I think that is being selfish and narrow minded.
Jen,
mostly what is, is fear. People are really afraid that if you like someone they dont like, you are going to be persuaded not to like them also...they want to hold on really tight to what you guys have, not understanding that if it is real nothing changes it. I have seen that much in my life. Someone will become close to me and go out of their way to try to taint other relationships. I was thinking about that today and decided to say stop it already. I also see it in the literary world, though in many cases is should be just about business...way too many people get caught up in competitiveness they forget that the world is large enough and full of abundance for all who are believers and work hard...
Smooches~
MD
Momma Deep .. always on point. I see it at work- ya kwow, because you are friends with her, I can't talk to you attitude - and I see it in the literary - oh you like her books or give her books good ratings and not mine - GEESH.
I think you are right when you say it is FEAR. If you don't learn how to control it Fear with always control you. I learned this lesson the hard way.
'Cilla,
I see it and at the risk of sounding arrogant, I have a lot of people who want me all to themselves...there is enough of me to go round...hee hee...
angelia
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