This past weekend my Granddaughter went on a road trip with her PaPa and I. It was wonderful, tiring and BLESSED...
However, as we spent time with our elders, I realized again that we have to be very careful of what we are imparting to our children. We can learn so much from those who are older than we are, but we can also pass down fear, superstitions and falsehoods if we are not careful.
As I listened, I was amazed by how we want people to be afraid of the things we are afraid of...it is as if to say,,,I have been afraid X number of years and I am still alive; that may be true, but how much have you missed out on because of your fear, how many opportunities and adventures...
Then there is the food thing, wanting to stuff children full of fat, calories and salt, saying they are just babies... and that is true, but that is how we create a culture of fat, diabetic, sluggish kids,,,sorry but food is not always love,,,sometimes it is a legacy that will have them taking insulin shots and high blood pressure medicine...
Also, if we have daughters, nieces etc, we are going to have to consistently tell them there is more to life than looks and sexuality...
And teach our boys that work and responsibility are paramount and that we will not prosper from their wrong doing,,,
And please for the love of GOD and all things sacred, teach them to tell someone if ever any one touches them or says some inappropriate,,,and elders please believe them and do something about it.
BE PEACE,,,
angelia
4 comments:
Angelia, I agree. Many of us don't realize the influence we have in childrens lives. Everyone is a role model, whether they signed up for the job or not. The life you're living represents your model. Children want to do what they see & hear. If mama & daddy or whomever did it, so can I. Our children aren't getting the best models to imitate.
AngelJ,
the sad thing is many think they are role models, mothers telling daughters to stay with men who have money, even when they are beating them or inappropriately touching children, or cheating on them. There are awful legacies we are passing on and modeling...
angelia
Something you wrote here really jumped out at me "we want people to be afraid of the things we are afraid of". It speaks loudly to the reason we often feel discouraged.
Many people will not encourage you to do something that they failed at or that they think they can't do. Reading your post allowed me to gain a new perspective - maybe they don't want me to do it, because they were afraid to do it. hmmmm.....
I will be posting on this in the near future, and linking back to you of course :-) Thanks for the inspiration
i am constantly arguing with my niece regarding my great nephew, who is 3. she reprimands him when he wants his nails painted or wants to wear heels. yet, she does these things with his sisters and nothing with him... this is all he sees.. Kids are sponges and it really takes a lot .. Great post Angela
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