Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Emotional and Unprepared...

I was asked what did I think was plaguing the young men in our community…
Causing so much violence, unprotected sex and high school dropout rates,
My answer was simple,
These kids are emotional and unprepared…
Many looked at me with questions in their eyes,
They understood unprepared to a great extent,
But emotional?
Yes, emotional.
So many see emotional as crying,
Well just because someone isn’t crying on the outside,
Doesn’t mean they aren’t bawling on the inside,
And when someone lashes out,
With their fists, their penises or a gun,
That’s an emotional response in textbook form,
It means when they don’t know what else to do,
They allow their emotions to lead them to life-defining decisions,
We will all admit that women are often more emotional than men,
And with great reason,
So if most boys in our communities are being raised by women,
Especially disenfranchised women who are in emotional turmoil themselves,
By default they get to be more emotional, because we mirror what we see,
So they aren’t crying tears because the world frowns on that,
But perpetrating, ‘Hard’…
Causes emotional turmoil which manifests itself in violent acts,
And one can’t become prepared to do anything,
When from day one the response has been emotional,
And society has immediately placed a nametag on your chest,
So young people, African American boys mostly are sitting in classrooms,
Unable to compete because they have been led to believe that they have to personify Manhood even when they are children, when in fact very few have role models to mirror,
Which define true manhood…
Anytime anyone asks what made the difference in my boys,
I immediately say their dad,
They got to see a MAN,
Someone who loved and honored their mother,
And was able to guide them on the path to being men,
Letting them know that the lack of tears doesn’t make a man,
But how one prepares to face life does,
Showing them that the best battles are won with their minds,
And with education, hard work, honoring women and staying the course when it would be easier to stop and do nothing…
So until boys are raised to be men in this manner,
We will continue to be plagued by generations who are,
Emotional and Unprepared….to compete,
Or be complete…

Love and Blessings…


Yasmin said...


GENESIS said...

Yup! That's the problem...

I was told women raise their daughters and love their sons while men raise their sons and love their daughters...even in it's simplicity, I find it's truth...

The mold of she-dads must be broken but can only be broken with a positive male presence

Boys these days are 'lucky' to have an active father...and it shouldn't be that way

Great post

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Girl... girl... girl... I'm speechless. You brought it today! I can't do anything but go on ahead and co-sign.


JC Martin said...

It is very unfortunate for a lot of boys, that there isn't a man in their life.

But just because a man is in the household does not guarantee that you will get strong emotional-prepared men.

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Yasmin, Genesis, Gwyneth...

your last statement holds truth but when statistics indicate that 0ver 95% of deathrow inmates grew up in fatherless homes, it is a step in the right direction...

Love and Blessings,

Shelia said...

"These kids are emotional and unprepared…" Exactly.

Excellent post.

Don said...


You spoke the truth then

Patricia W. said...


Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Thanks, Patricia, Don, Shelia,
I appreciate you all...

love and blessings,

Demon Hunter said...

Great post! It hits home. Men need to step up---quickly!

Ramblings...acVernon Menchan said...

Thanks Demon Hunter,