Angelia Vernon Menchan

Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published twenty-three books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than eighty ebook novellas on You can access her bibliography on search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan

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Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

It's Not About U...Honest!

One of my favorite phrases in the world, is,
“It’s not about you”
I have said it to family and friends for years,
Not to mention my children, and it resonates with me continually,
Because people sure do take on a lot of stuff…
About a week and a half ago, I was sitting at the nail spa,
Freshly waxed brows, shea butter on my face,
Feet immersed in hot, oily water, Hall and Oates on the speakers,
The workers talking amongst themselves,
I was chilling…and then I felt a nudge,
Opening one eye, I looked at the nudger…
She quietly asked,
“Does that bother you?”
“What…” she glanced at the technicians, then back at me,
“That they are speaking Vietnamese?”
‘Huh, why would that bother me?’
‘They might be talking about us…” now she had jacked up my karma,
So I had to say,
“So what if they are, they don’t know us, we don’t know them, we are going,
To leave up out of here cute and relaxed, so what then…” Rolling her eyes,
She went back to her Cosmopolitan,
I went back to chilling, thinking,
“Woman, that is not about you, people speak in the language they think in…”
The reverse is true as well, if one has something to say,
Say it already, coyness, innuendo and saying, ‘them’ rolls right off me,
Unless someone addresses it to me as , Angelia, Ms. A., Angel, Mrs. Menchan, et al,
I am going to be assured they mean someone else, because surely,
If it were about me, grown folks would bring it to me,
So if there is a message in this Rambling at all, it would be this,
Don’t assume anything is about you…
Unless you are told it is,
Just do your thing and try to chill…

Love, Peace and Blessings,


Niambi Brown Davis said...

Aside from what you said (and you said it well) unless it was her first time in the salon, why would she be there if she was so bothered? What people say is like disappearing ink to me; it has no lasting impact. They can say what they want as long as they don't put their hands on me or in my pocketbook (lol)

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Sister Niambi,
isn't that the truth...and I didn't even know the woman, I just wanted pampering...people take too much on themselves...


Phe said...

This reminds me of an old saying "don't sweat the small stuff"...

People get so wrapped up in nonsense and let their paranoia get the best of them and ruin their day...

Just be about yours and Imma be about mines...plain and simple.

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...


You are feeling me and I am feeling you...



Jennifer C. said...

WOW! I go to get my hair braided and they speak their native tongue. When I used to get my toes done they spoke their native tongue as well. I could careless. Just do a good job, because that's what I am paying for.
Nothing more or less.

That person is a one that walks around and believe the sun rises and sets on her.

Gwyneth Bolton said...

That's right, sis! Don't let anyone mess up your relaxing "me-time." I know personally I can hardly be bothered when folks are talking about me. So I'm not hardly going to concern myself with things folks are saying in another language...


Anonymous said...

Speak the truth--as much as we would like to think the world revolve around us--it doesn't. In this situation, you basicallly have to just shrug stuff like that off. To use the words of one of my friends, just keep it moving.

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...

Sweet Jen, Lady G. and Sister Shelia,
I knew you all would understand what I was feeling...don't start nothing when I am in the zone...


'Cilla said...

I have had this conversation a time or two and you are right... why waste my time stressing over nothing.. as long as you look GOOD! and service was the same.

Well said Angelia :-)

Angelia Vernon Menchan said...


Hello and my nail spa treats you well, beverages, chocolates, wine after five...please they can speak in any language they want to...


Dera Williams said...

Kind of paranoid,wasn't she. You are right, she is in a place of relaxation and pampering and she cannot enjoy the moment for thinking she is the topic of someone's conversation. It ain't about you lady!